I guess the old saying fits here: "If it was easy, everyone would do it." As you know, it's far from easy. It may take months, years, or decades. There's also a time when you're not even aware that the addiction even exists!
In the Transtheoretical Model of recovery, there are six stages that we go through as we journey through recovery from addiction. Pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance, and termination.
Think about that. There's so much healing that needs to happen in each stage to move onto the next. That's the explanation of the scientists and researchers.
God also has an explanation. As I said, God has a purpose for the time it takes to heal. In his book, "Changes that Heal" Dr. Henry Cloud refers to this time as redemptive time: "an incubator that exists for the purpose of redemption. It is a place where God can lovingly fix what is wrong. It is a place where evil temporarily exists while God does his work."
That last part is so conflicting. God is lovingly doing His work while the evil continues. I want it to be that when God comes in to do His work, the evil retreats. However, that's not the case. If it were, there would be no healing of past hurts and traumas.
We need that time to process through why we go to food for any reason other than nourishment. When we use food as comfort, to lessen stress, or for love, it takes time to learn how to redirect ourselves.
In that time, God is helping us learn from our failures. That's when we learn our biggest lessons. Recovery is different for each one of us. No process is identical. One person can have certain foods while another cannot. How will you know which one you are without testing it out?
That's why, no matter where you are in recovery from food addiction, I meet you where you are. You may come for coaching at the very beginning of your process, not even knowing if you have an addiction, or you may seek advice after the twentieth attempt. Either way, it's all part of the process of healing.
God also needs that time to put people into your life to help support you. Community is extremely important to God.
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working. James 5:16
That's why I created the free Facebook group: Nourishing the Heart and Soul. I encourage you to join us there! We are better together! I wanted a place where Christian women could come together to support one another, no matter where they are on their journey. It's such an important step in the process. We learn and grow from one another.
Growth is an essential part of the process. You can't remain the same person who got into the addiction. You can't fix the problem with the same thinking. During this time, God is growing your thinking. You become the type of person who can pass by sweets in the office break room without grabbing for one. You become the type of person who can pray rather than run for food after a long, stressful day. You stop being the person who eats in secret with butterflies in her stomach just waiting to get caught.
All of that cannot happen overnight and usually doesn't happen on the first try. That's where grace comes in. I pray that by having this realization that you will see the importance of time in the recovery process and give yourself grace when you fail. Nothing good will ever be accomplished in your life through self-hatred. Through seeing the love that God has for us we can heal. We can move past the addiction and into the life God meant for us to live.
My beautiful sister, give yourself the time you need to recover. Pick yourself up when you fall, not with your own strength, but with God's. Go to Him when you need love, compassion, or understanding. Allow him to make the changes in you that you need. You'll have to invite Him in though. He is always a gentleman and will not intrude on your addiction without your permission. Maybe this simple prayer will help:
I hope this has brought you some clarity and blesses you. If you're interested in some more individualized help, please reach out. We can discuss your unique situation and how I can best help you. God bless and have a wonderful day!